It is interesting to note that this group of scripture is the only place in the entire Bible where it speaks about wives are supposed to love their husbands, unlike we see in Ephesians 5, where we are told how much a husband is supposed to love his wife, to the degree he needs to be prepared and willing to even die for her. However, the wife is told that she must always respect her husband:
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery, but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband, (Ephesians 5:25-33, KJV).
In this day and age, obviously these instructions (God’s formula) for successful marriages are viewed as “old school” which conjures up much conjecture by wives, such as “Yea! But you don’t know him (the husband) like I do, and I’ll be damned if I will submit to or obey that jerk.”
True! But then no husband is perfect nor is either all wives, which is usually the case because neither is fulfilling the roles God has given both wife and husband. But, I will wager that if a husband is obeying God in this regard, showing his complete and total devotion to his wife, to the degree he is willing to die for her, that any sensible woman has no other response than to at least respect her husband. Too many in the secular world would find this conduct absolutely deplorable in this “liberated” world we live in today, which (unfortunately) is also common among Christian marriages.
Strange as it may seem, nowadays especially, failure to follow these instructions (especially) by those who are deeply involved in ministerial activities, is having a devastating effect. For those husbands and fathers who have been chosen by God to minister to those in his community, they are already entering into this endeavor with one giant strike against them, as we read in scripture, that such a man receives any honor or respect in his hometown, much less is his own household:
Therefore, we leave you with this small caveat. Turn your lives around and follow God’s formula to insure a strong marriage, but even more important, an effective ministry.